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Would you give someone else's child a lift to an audition?

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Would you give someone else's child a lift to an audition?

I am possibly in this quandary. Other person's dd and my dd going for same part (they are in same drama group). The parent has asked me for help as she is working and thinks her dh can't do it either.

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I would find that hard! I would want to be friendly and helpful but in reality my dd would be the priority and I'm not sure I could spread myself thin to accomodate someone elses. Is that an awful thing to say?
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That's EXACTLY what I'm thinking dodgepot!

I am trying desperately to find a get-out clause e.g. that child's own parent has to sign something at the audition? Would that wash?

BTW not just one other dd but 2 - the other girl's younger sister is going for another part. TBH I hardly know the girls either :roll:
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If it was a good friend I would do it, but if you're not that friendly I think its a bit cheeky to even ask!
Are they in at the same time, if not that could be your excuse that you have to get somewhere else quick!
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I would look at it in reverse, if you really wanted your dd to go to an audition that you could find no other way of getting her to would you ask a fellow parent who was already taking their own child? If not you have your answer! I think also she is underestimating the level of parental support necessary in that crucial five minutes before an audition - you can't be expected to provide that for her children when you have your own child to worry about.
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Of course I would, I wouldn't think twice as long as I had room in my car.
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I would do it too, as long as they are girls that your dd gets on with - you never know when you may need the favour returned and if, like mine, they get a bit bored on the casting haul it might make it more of a trip out for dd :) Good luck in deciding xx
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I would do it as well. I would do anyone a favour if i could, just human nature I think to want to help - as in the future you might want help yourself!!(Do unto others etc..... )
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Yes, I would too. Might as well have competition that you know about, but I also wouldn't like to explain to the Mum why I wouldn't take her dd, or have to lie about it! Good luck!
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I would and have done. This once resulted in the other child getting the part and my dd not but then my view was that it was obviously not meant to be. It was however a very difficult journey home because they were told then and there so one was over the moon and the other was down in the dumps
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Argh! What a rotten position! I'm not sure how I'd react, it would depend on the other child and how likely it was that she would get the part and then ride roughshod over my dd's feelings all the way home. (I have had this happen once and boy was it horrible!) If she's a nice kid and would be gracious then I'd do it. The only thing I would beware of is if they both get a part, but one gets a smaller one - if this mum can't make such an important audition she may not be able to get her to all the rehearsals etc, and you could find yourself landed again and again.
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I would do it most agents have children of the same age but each child is different so if the other child got the part my ds was not right for it, also if I could not take my ds could ask them next time. Oldest ds used to be with SY and if I was having trouble getting him to audition they would phone some one who lived near and ask if they could take ds. If yr child gets on with the other child then they will have a great time going to audition make them more relaxed which will help.
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I love your multiple smilies doris. Very expressive :lol:

I'm usually very supportive of other kids auditioning and pass on information and encourage people etc etc, but I feel it should be up to me to offer to take another child that I have encouraged, rather than be asked, especially if i don't know them particularly. If I and dd/ds liked them and were keen for the company to help their nerves then yes, but if any of us are uneasy then no! We have often had something we are rushing to or from before/after similar situations - so as suggested that is the perfect excuse if you decide better not to do it.Good Luck to your dd for the audition [-o<
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Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences, you are so helpful and really helped me make up my mind :D

My gut reaction is always to be helpful if I can, as I like to "do unto others" too. However I think in this particular circumstance I will say no. I feel I owe it to dd to give her 100% attention. Also, I would never have asked this mum to take my dd.

Hopefully the dad of the girls can do it and I won't even get asked!!
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Having had some experience in the past of taking other peoples children to both auditions and filming I would have to say I wouldnt do it again unless I knew the child and parent well and knew how they would react should it be my child chosen rather than theirs. As a teacher and chaperone I took a group of ten to an audition some years ago and had my younger son with me who wasnt auditioning but planned to take him shopping whilst the children were at the workshop,the director saw him whilst we were registering and to cut a long story short he was actually offered the part,which to say the least didnt go down well with the other parents or the children. On another occasion I was one of several chaperones who took a coach load of 40 children to fillm a playground scene. The director having watched the kids for a while picked two for speaking roles (both my own) . I wasnt around at the time but again parents and children were so nasty one even made a written complaint to the school! Certainly put me off taking anyone but my own in future.
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